Some People Don’t Like To Celebrate Their Birthdays. Quite A Lot Of People Actually

August 30, 2011

Happy BirthdayAnton Goryunov writes from Moscow: Spare a thought for people who don’t like to celebrate their birthdays.

I’m not talking here about children and teenagers, who get all excited about receiving presents and having friends over. I mean people who don’t like all the attention or to be reminded that they are not getting any younger. There are many of them about, although they often keep it to themselves. I know some people who get so depressed on their birthdays that they actually go into hiding, or get so drunk that they simply pass out.

You won’t believe how these people suffer when they birthdays arrive! They shudder every time the phone rings and some distant relative or a supposed friend, who haven’t called for a year, would wish them many happy returns of the day – in a sugary, insincere voice, showering them with praise. And others would call, and wish silly things that they don’t really mean, and say that they actually did buy a present but had had no time to send it over so they would bring it at some point later. And they never do.

And birthday cards arrive, most of them cringingly bad, especially the ones with the text already typed in or with silly tunes playing when you open them. Or, if the card comes from someone who thinks that he has a sense of humour, it would be one of those humorous ones about farting or getting pissed. It is remarkable how many greeting cards these days are made by people who think that the mention of breaking wind or getting plastered lifts the mood and sounds absolutely hilarious.

But the worst test of all comes when people come over to wish many happy returns in person. That can be really tragic. Some old aunt or uncle, who thinks that you are still at school, would be asking stupid questions and drinking their tea forever. Why or why, you would think, do you have to suffer so much on your own birthday? Who came up with this stupid idea of having birthdays in the first place?

The most bizarre thing of all is that some people are prepared to go to extremes to congratulate others on their ‘big day’, yet throughout the rest of the year they wouldn’t show any affection or interest. No sign of life for 364 days and then, suddenly, an outburst of emotion. Why do they feel so obliged to call and wish many happy returns of the day?

And what torture it is for people, who don’t like to celebrate their birthdays, when they are forced to do it for different reasons beyond their control. Like when their relatives and close friends know the date and would come anyway, whether invited or not. All that stocking of booze and food that would be wiped out in minutes or sitting in some crappy eatery, watching your guest get drunk and stuff themselves with food, quickly forgetting why they’d gathered there in the first place.

The same thing often happens at weddings and funerals. Actually funerals attract lots of people, who often never even met the deceased but come anyway because of the free food and drinks and no need to bring presents. Some people to weddings and funerals because they think it’s a great opportunity to meet new people – and have unprotected sex with them aas soon as possible.

I especially sympathise with newlyweds who have to go through the torturous process of listening to all the drivel that emanates from their relatives and friends, who never miss an opportunity to say something demeaning. Would it not be better for young couples to get married and then whiz off to some nice place, thousands of miles away, rather than watch all the nasty people, who come to their weddings, get drunk?

Anyway, what can you do about your birthdays, if you don’t like to celebrate them? Well, it’s probabaly a good idea to keep the date secret from as many people as possible, or give confusing information to everyone about the ‘big day’. It would help avoid all that humiliation and suffering. Otherwise you’ll just have to suffer and hope the day passes quickly.

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  • Annie

    It is a sad commentary on our values that we celebrate life (or someone else’s)and then without compuction wipe them out in a war.

  • magesh

    that is so true. it has become an obligation in every sense.

  • Elizabeth

    I absolutely enjoyed that. I find birthdays to be thoroughly meaningless and phony. I feel as though insecurity plays a major role..
    I prefer not to celebrate my own birthday and I’m a happier individual for it!

  • nhel

    I think, it is not necessary to celebrate birthday extremely in a sense that you will be spending a lot of money. The important is you have thank God for the longer life then celebrate together with your family in a simple way. But if you don’t have enough money, just celebrate within your capacity.

  • Anonymous Teenager

    I don’t like celebrating birthdays either. I don’t really see the point to be honest. I am only 15 years old by the way and I am happy the way I am!