Why Do Women Get It All Wrong When They Try To Catch Men’s Attention?
Adam Lovejoy writes from Paris: How come so many women get it all wrong when they try to catch a man’s attention?
They actually believe that if they dress and behave like sluts, guys would notice them at once and get seriously interested and, who knows, might be even tempted to start dating. Sure, some men like chicks who are easy, no one’s disputing that, but these are not exactly pleasant men who are great to be with. These are mostly inarticulate boring lowlifes who are out in search of a quick shag that they usually perform very badly. Not to mention the possibility of catching a sexually transmitted disease, or even a whole bouquet of them.
But there’s another strange thing that chicks do. Say they have good legs but otherwise are very ordinate looking, so they would wear embarrassingly short skirts that would reveal most of their thighs or, if they are blessed by ample breasts, they’d make them as visible as possible. It’s called nipple flashing, in case you didn’t know. What do they think men take them for? Exactly, easily available chicks, that’s what they take them for. Not to mention that when a woman bares her best parts for public consumption her less impressive assets become even more obvious. It just doesn’t work, girls, this best asset flashing, and it doesn’t make you look appealing or sexy. Sexy actually is about staying covered and radiating a bit of mystery and not showing off your flesh for all sorts of punks to ogle.
And then there’s the loud unprovoked laughter that so many women think makes them look appealing. As in: Oh, I’m so easy going and laid back and comfortable with my looks that I can laugh like a hyena for now reason. It’s a serious problem, this unprovoked loud laughter, by the way, with more and more chicks doing it in the mistaken belief that it makes them look exciting. It’s actually very annoying and on the scale of things that turn men off in women probably competes with chipped nails and BO.
And then there’s this obsession with the latest fashion trends, even the most stupidest ones, that so many chicks have. They seem to think that looking like ten million other women makes them stand out in the crowd. It doesn’t. It makes them look stupid and, what is even worse, it tells men that they have no other way of making themselves interesting or desirable, apart from wearing some idiotic outfit designed by some sick and twisted bastard who calls himself a ‘designer’.
Which brings me, quite unexpectedly for some, I suppose, to my main point: men like women who are glamorous, in a proper way that is, who are not showing off their flesh in abundance in the hope that it makes them look remarkable or eccentric. Sluttiness has had its day, girls. It’s for truck drivers, builders, footballers and actors or other men with low expectations when it comes to women. Proper guys are fed up with chicks who look like hookers. They want to go out with women who can actually string a sentence together and maybe go beyond talking about shows or soaps on the box. Intelligence is what holds relationships together. If two people don’t know what to say to each other, like it happens with so many celebrity couples, they get bored and walk away.
So what I’m saying here, girls, is that reading a good book or even a couple and not staying glued to the box for days might raise your chances of meeting good men. Despite what feminists tell you, who want you to go about looking like cheap hookers and feeling liberated.
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Quite a rant there, but apart from the ranting I kind of agree; you just didn’t use the most delicate words to express the opinion. Anyhow, people are different and value different things. If there’s individuals who prefer the easy and shallow type, let them play that game, it just makes it easier to navigate in the sea for the ones with a different taste.
Grapes, high, sour, huh?
For all your ranting, what makes you think we’re constantly trying to catch men’s attention? If we’re laughing like hyenas, then we’re alreday having a great time and we don’t care if you think we look attractive. There’s no need to be so self-centered: all these women have better things to do than impress you.
In my opinion this guy is just speaking for himself. Yes an intellectual woman is attractive, but most normal guys care little about that (like myself). I believe the key to get any mans attention is just stare straight into their eyes n just give a cute smile.
Sexist dribble. I’ll wear what I want and sleep with who I want and not for you.
“truck drivers, builders, footballers and actors or other men with low expectations when it comes to women”
Wtf?
Though I agree with some of the writer’s rant, he assumes that every girl that plays up her assets or laughs loudly is doing it all for male attention. If a girl loves her legs and wants to show them off, its not always to distract or detract from other things or for the approval or attention of men.
In fact, you’d be suprised to know that most women dress for the attention of other women. Go figure!
I think what you ultimately wanted to say was that women should simply be confident about who they are and try not compromise their self respect for the kind of male attention that isn’t always the best. You negate the fact that sometimes, these wen were never given the tools to love themselves or attract that right kind of love. Your message was lost in all of the name calling and negativity, but I’m willing to assume your heart is actually bigger than your mouth.
I like this article… And I want to add something important:sometimes make girls look like “hookers” is that starting their teen age guys are attracted to girls who are trendy and easy to get, so some good girls might feel bad because they can’t get the guy they like because they are just ordinary girls who spend time studying and hanging out with smart people instead of partying with some assholes, So most of these girls transform into a hooker to change guys’ behavior toward her, to make them approach her… It’s a very sensitive issue, maybe we need to also educate boys since their teen age to appreciate real girls and not fake hookers.
When I show off a part of my body by waering a short skirt or a shirt with some cleavage, it is not to conceal any flaws nor is my ultimate desire to get all the guys´ attention. In fact it is much more flattering to get noticed by women because truth be told, if you´re not exactly in the playboy mansion or at some stripper party, naked skin will most definitely catch the eyes of most men, sophisticated or not. Looking beautiful alters my self-esteem and showing skin can be done in a way that is not slutty. Nonetheless, I agree with the fact that women should not sacrifice their self-respect to get attention from men.
Totally true, but the really glamorous girls on the other hand are intimidating to talk to :3
I love when girls show off its what attracted me to.my girlfriend of 4 years. And i happen to be as wonderful as she is. Perhaps you shouldnt be so judgemental.
^ ashton: that doesnt say anything about the author, it just says something about your tastes, or lack thereof.
Yet another man trying to tell me how to make myself more attractive to him and him specifically.
Well Adam you might be surprised to learn that you might not be the fantastic enlightened catch you think you are. In fact, you’re nothing but a misogynist, and a pretty blatant one at that, so how about you shut the fuck up hmm?
Ok, I am a 23 year old woman, But I am impressed with what the author has candidly written here! I haven seen so many women (and teens sadly) these days who wear their breasts out, their butt cheeks hanging out of their shorts, wearing shirts as dresses, wearing tights as pants (when you can clearly see every crease and whether or not your wearing underwear- No one with respect really wants to see this stuff! The author makes very valid points that what you wear certainly attracts a certain type of man ( If that’s what you call them…I prefer dogs). If they are easily baited in by your Hoochy looks then the next girl will just as easily be able to pull him in ( if she hasn’t already.) I choose to dress modestly because I know if I catch a guys attention it’s not because of my looks, as much as my demeanor and presence. I like to reserve my lady-bits for my mans eyes only…there’s something very sacred and special about that and I’m sure he appreciates it to. If your looking to be in a solid relationship, trust and security needs to be established. Obviously your not going to find any of that if your running around with your parts flying out because you think that’s the only way attract a man. Any girl can be beautiful without the cake face, filthy mouth, the push-up bras, the thongs hanging out of they’re shorts…it’s called being secure in yourself and being proud of it. Great Read! You can find me on Twitter @MicheleOliviaH Hope to see you there! Have a Lovely day
I totally agree. I’m a 20 year old woman and I’m so sick of seeing some of the younger (and sometimes older!) women barely dress at all. It’s kind of irritating.
Melissa, Dust Bunnies
how are men still writing articles telling women what to wear?
Dude, the 1950′s called, they want their douchbag back.
If you have a certain type of woman you want to date, then ignore the rest and date her. Women don’t get up in the morning and think, gosh… I’m going to get dressed today to please whatever gender I like. No, we get dressed for ourselves to feel good and if that means showing some skin then let them show skin.
This article is pure misogyny, and in case you don’t know what that means, it is hatred towards women.
A lot of your articles make valid points, but you really do have a tendency to express your opinions with a very negative outlook that usually is oversimplified based on stereotypes.
I am a female and I have never paid much attention to fashion trends and am not interested in wearing tight clothes that show way too much skin. I agree with the point that women should not dress to impress assholes that probably just to bang them and never call back, but it seems like you are oversimplifying the issue by propagating the “dumb blond” stereotype and applying it to a wide range of individuals you don’t know. Most women (at least myself and the ones I know) wear what they want and do not choose what they wear solely to impress the opposite gender. I am not opposed to loud obnoxious laughter either as long as it is because the individual is actually amused and not just to create a shallow false impression on other people. I’m sure women who fit the stereotype you describe exist, but I doubt as many women fit the “dumb blond” kind of stereotype as perfectly as a lot of people like to think. This article gives me the impression that you credit a disproportionate amount of the promiscuity in society to dumb women acting fake and dressing easy to attract men. The real world is complex and almost no issue ever occurs solely because of one factor.
I question the motives of a society that is overrun with promiscuity, women who under-dress, and men who want to use them as a commodity. The fact that so many young women are obsessed with appearances and underdress is a dubious sign that culture is teaching women (and men) to value and pay attention to the wrong things. Women need to learn to be themselves, not try to be a sex object. There are many things in life that are much more interesting and enjoyable things to do than obsess over attractiveness. Too many men are also encouraged to “get laid” as much as possible with as many women as possible as a right of manhood. The messages young people are indoctrinated with are often very shallow and demeaning to those who accept what media and society tells them is “cool”. It may not be as obvious by how they dress, but I assure you there are plenty of males in society who are just as dumb, if not dumber, than the stereotype of the average “dumb blond” woman. My goal is not to assign more blame to men in general than they deserve because they are unique individuals too, not clones of a stereotype, but to recognize there is more than end of the problem and any solution would involve treating multiple causes of the issue. It is oversimplification to blame all of it on one stereotype of “those dumb blond girls”.
Men realy don’t get us. Why do men think we want to impress them? It’s about the other women… We want other women to see us and think: “WOW that dress is awesome. I’m so jealous of her long legs!”
If we want a man’s attention, we have other tricks!
Noss, we men know that women dress to impress other women, not men. We also know you women Undress to impress us men, thats what we want & it seems its what youwant too & you enjoy as much as dressing up to impress other women, besides when women dress up, if they don’t have a man on their arms then no matter what clothes they have on nothing impresses other women as much as a woman with a man !